Flirting
Iceman (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 12:20 GMT

Hey guys

I've had a strange week that I'm not used to, I've had a number of guys flirting with me, one last
week I liked and was fun, last night who was a wow, and now today a guy at work has been flirting
with me who is also cute, how do other people deal with this as I'm used to flirting with people
but not them doing it back to me? Is it wrong to pick someone up at work? and I don't even know
which one I'm more interested in as the all some to have different things that I like about them.

God I'm not sure I'm ready for this? anyone got any advice?

Iceman
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Re: Flirting
Iceman (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 12:59 GMT

The other thing I forgot to say was that I've juts come out of a relationship of over a year and I'm
not sure I want to start anything with anyone as I want to make sure that I'm ready, and I don't
want to get "hurt" or see them get hurt they they are all guys that I fancy.....why me???

Iceman
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Re: Flirting
® adl (in Canada) 18 Dec 2001 at 13:04 GMT

Iceman,

Sorry to hear about the relationship. However, why shouldn't guys flirt with you? Besides it's the
time of year when people are feeling frisky and social. And while flirtling can lead to sex, it
doesn't necessarily mean they're looking for a "relationship". They may just want to have some fun
with you - surely that's not a bad thing. When you're coming out of a relationship it certainly
helps to discover others find you attractive. Don't fight the world.

Re: Flirting
® dcfctony (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 13:04 GMT

Just enjoy yourself, but make it clear to the guys that you don't feel ready for another
relationship yet.. Let them know how you feel, from the start, and then no-one will get hurt..

Re: Flirting
Iceman (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 13:13 GMT

Thanks for the advice, but the problem is I've done the sex for fun bit after comming out of a
relationship and it was a bad move as the guy did not listen to me and and kept phoning me and not
leaving me alone and juts stressed me out more.

I friend said to me to get back out there again as I'm a good looking guy and my ex is "dating" so I
could have some fun and enjoy myself.

So if I go on that idea who the hell do I choose? The 2 guys I've had dinner with were both funny
we liked sim. things ok the guy from last night was a hunk and I know for a fact he was up for
more, but then I also fancy the other guy.

And now with this 3rd guy flirting with me at work, I mean is it something you should do? What
should I do about that as he's cute and all but it's work, and I have to go back to that office in
a while too......oh god help me

Iceman
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Re: Flirting
® dcfctony (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 13:25 GMT

It doesn't really matter whether your 'ex' is dating, or not - after all, he is your EX..

As many in here know, I live with my 'ex' but we 'do our own thing'.. (to coin a phrase)..

You are now 'a free agent' - this means you need feel no obligation to any one particular person..

I cannot advise you which lad to choose - that is your choice.. If you choose one, however, remember
that you are still 'free' and don't let the guy 'tie you down'.. Move on, if you feel the need to..


As for guys pestering you, on the phone etc.. well there comes a time when you have to be hard and
say, quite bluntly, "**** off!" God knows, it took me long enough to 'toughen up,' but I am glad I
did.. and people will respect you, all the more, for it - take my word for it - be strong!!
Good luck, mate..

Re: Flirting
Iceman (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 13:33 GMT

I know I'm free to do as I like, but when I say I'm not sure to friends they keep using the "why are
you using your ex as a reason to not move on" which is not true, I juts feel I need more than I a
month or so to start shagging or "seeing" someone else. But god knews they are all cute enough to
make me horny. LOL I've got 20 minutes to work out how I'm going to play it with the flirt in his
office, I'm in to minds as you flirt back with him or juts be a pro come in and do the job I need
to do and then leave......I if I do flirt I don't know what to do as I don't know hwo to flirt.
LOL

Iceman
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Re: Flirting
® dcfctony (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 13:36 GMT

Let him do all the 'running' for a while.. Your responses should come naturally.. just be
yourself... BE confident...!!

Re: Flirting
Iceman (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 13:37 GMT

that's that then? I don't do that? it's all an act. LOL

Iceman
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Re: Flirting
® dcfctony (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 13:43 GMT

If he is interested enough, then he will make it very clear to you..

I can understand your lack of confidence, if you have been hurt, recently, but you must try to be
strong, and move on...

I love guys flirting with me, but I have a cheeky nature, and always flirt back.. I know it's hard,
mate, but try to believe in yourself and you will become stronger...

Go for it - I would be interested to hear how you go on...

Re: Flirting
Iceman (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 13:46 GMT

oh I was not really hurt in the break up if that's want you are thinking as we decided together it
was the right thing to do, I'm juts not conferdent firlying with people

Iceman
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Re: Flirting
® dcfctony (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 13:48 GMT

These guys are interested in you, so what does that tell you? - that you are attractive, and have
SOMETHING about you!! Think on - this alone should help to build your confidence...

Re: Flirting
Iceman (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 13:50 GMT

yeah but wait until they find out I'm a bitch. LOL

Iceman
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Re: Flirting
® dcfctony (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 13:51 GMT

You don't 'come across' as one, to me..

Re: Flirting
Iceman (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 13:53 GMT

Trust me I can be I think the only one here that could give me a run fro my money in here would be
the other half of our mate Ged <grin>

Iceman
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Re: Flirting
® dcfctony (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 13:54 GMT

LOL WITH Iceman...

Re: Flirting
® Ged (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 13:57 GMT

Hehehehe, I'll make sure he reads that!

Re: Flirting
Iceman (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 13:58 GMT

I was counting on that Ged LOL

dcfctony will it's nearly time <grin>

Iceman
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Re: Flirting
® dcfctony (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 13:59 GMT

Good luck (again) mate - let me know how you get on...

Re: Flirting
Iceman (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 14:09 GMT

will do

Iceman
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Re: Flirting
® Ged (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 15:09 GMT

Good luck m8!

Re: Flirting
Iceman (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 15:24 GMT

bastard bosses, he's boss and lots of people were back in the office so we had to do work talk
but I did find out to things, he's
wearing white boxers and his name. <grin>

Iceman
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Re: Flirting
® mouse (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 15:28 GMT

Real sorry to hear about the break up Iceman

As for the three chaps, if they're all up for it, then go for the one you fancy the most (I'm sure
you must have a 'pecking' order), and then work your way down if you're not up for a relationship
just yet.
Come on now! As a gay man, it's almost mandatory to be a tart!

Re: Flirting
Iceman (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 15:32 GMT

Mouse I used to be but then I started seeing Johan and I had to give back my degrees, I had tart and
slapper and was 1/2 though sitting for my slag degree when I started seeing Johan and they made me
give back the degrees, it will take ages to get them again I've tried asking for them back.....
<grin>

Iceman
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Re: Flirting
® Jim-S (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 15:41 GMT

some guys have all the luck!

Re: Flirting
® Tintin (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 15:44 GMT

I only flirt online.
( @ Jim )

Re: Flirting
® Jim-S (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 15:46 GMT

aw bless
thank you Tintin

Re: Flirting
® Tintin (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 15:49 GMT

Shush! Don't make it so damn obvious!!

Re: Flirting
Iceman (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 15:53 GMT

<grin> they might all be flirting with me but I'm noting getting anywhere, ok lastnight was
my fault I've just had someone on
ICQ just said look at my picture and said I was stuning I've never had a day like it, I don't think
I want it to end

Iceman
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Re: Flirting
Iceman (in the United Kingdom) 18 Dec 2001 at 16:34 GMT

it's so not fair and I had some great lines to use on him but his boss and everyone lese being there
stopped me, you know nice comments like well then I finish I also like to make sure that when the
person is totally satisfied.....

Iceman
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Re: Flirting
Iceman (in the United Kingdom) 19 Dec 2001 at 09:16 GMT

Well, yesterday got better, I went shopping with a friend to the gay capital of Kent (Bluewater LOL)
and could not believe how many cute guys there were and a few of them seemed to be checking me out.
then to end the day I got a texted message asking if/when I was free, I replied with:

"I know you was told I was a pro but that stands for professional not prositute, I've never charged
for it so always free but not busy Friday if that's that you mean?
)"

I got back the message "the best things in life have always been free, Friday night it is bring a
toothbrush".

And this morning I got a christmas card at work saying Dear Steve The best IT yechnician in the
whole wide world!!! we will miss you loads when we move with love from"

I wanted to cry it was so sweet, what's going on? my life is never this good

Iceman
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Re: Flirting
Iceman (in the United Kingdom) 19 Dec 2001 at 11:30 GMT

looks like I'm talking to myself today
but will something did go wrong
this morning at for 30 minutes when I get a phone call reminding that I was in the wrong place 30
minutes later fighting the traffic I managed to get to the right place god what am I like

Iceman
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Re: Flirting
® Ged (in the United Kingdom) 19 Dec 2001 at 12:31 GMT

Well, I think it's great! SO have you been yet?

Re: Flirting
Iceman (in the United Kingdom) 19 Dec 2001 at 12:49 GMT

Ged: ???? what? what that aimed this this topic? I don't understand?

Iceman
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Re: Flirting
® Ged (in the United Kingdom) 19 Dec 2001 at 12:54 GMT

Don't worry, i think i've confused myself again!

Re: Flirting
Iceman (in the United Kingdom) 19 Dec 2001 at 13:30 GMT

that makes 2 of us then

Iceman
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Re: Flirting
® Fluffy (in the United Kingdom) 27 Dec 2001 at 18:13 GMT

Iceman at the start of this thread you said that you are the flirter not the flirtee . but later on
you said that you were having difficulty in flirting and then later on that you had degrees in the
subjects of Slapper and Tart. Now you have a super position to be in, as you have several admirers

Re: Flirting
® Iceman (in the United Kingdom) 27 Dec 2001 at 18:25 GMT

Fluffy: I did not say I was the flirter they were all flirting wirh me, as for being a slapper and
a tart I went easy on my standards for a while and said a cocks a cock, the foolishness of yough

Iceman
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Re: Flirting
Anonymous 27 Dec 2001 at 19:15 GMT

"I'm used to flirting with people but not them doing it back to me?" (sic) as stated in the start of
this thread

Re: Flirting
® Fluffy (in the United Kingdom) 27 Dec 2001 at 19:15 GMT

OOPS that was me

Re: Flirting
® Iceman (in the United Kingdom) 27 Dec 2001 at 20:06 GMT

oh you bitch I hate it when people use my own words against me. LOL

Iceman
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